One Butchy Mom and Her Girly Daughter
Betsy is a proud social worker and fundraiser in Chicago. She has dedicated her career to harnessing philanthropy to protect the civil rights of LGBTQ+ people and everyone living with HIV, affordable and accessible housing, and quality healthcare for women and trans/non-binary folks.
Many moons ago...before diapers, sleepless nights and Baby Shark was on repeat, Betsy came to NYC and invited Kirrin Finch founders, Kelly and Laura out for drinks. Needless to say, they all hit it off and have stayed in touch. Fast forward to life in 2021, we all have kids and we thought Betsy would be a great person to share her story. Not only because she is a badass parent to her daughter Hazel, but she also is a force to be reckoned with at work.
Not all “moms” love pink and some parents in our community identify more papa. But no matter how you identify and the pronouns you use, you are important and deserve to be celebrated this Mother's Day! Let's be real, the past year brought a whole new host of challenges to parenting and it isn't easy, and we could all do with a little fist bump!
HOW DO YOU TYPICALLY CELEBRATE MOTHER'S DAY?
THERE ARE A LOT OF EXPECTATIONS THAT YOU'LL FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR CHILD AS SOON AS THEY ARRIVE. WHAT WAS YOUR EXPERIENCE LIKE?
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE THING ABOUT BEING A PARENT?
WHAT IS THE MOST CHALLENGING THING ABOUT BEING A PARENT?
Do I have to pick just one thing? Parenting is sometimes really hard, especially with toddlers and even more given the stressors of the current pandemic. I've recently started dating a new woman who has two of her own children, and while it's beautiful to watch Hazel interact with other kids around her age in a sibling-like way, it's also exhausting. It requires setting hard boundaries and then holding yourself accountable to upholding them. It's not relaxing, but I would never give it up, because this little human is also so rewarding. When she, unprompted, tells me that she loves me so much and that I'm her favorite Momma (her other mom is Mommy), I just melt into an enormous puddle.
AS A QUEER PARENT IT CAN SOMETIMES BE CHALLENGING FIGURING OUT WHAT YOU WANT TO BE CALLED. WHAT WAS YOUR EXPERIENCE LIKE?
KIDS CLOTHING IS OFTEN VERY GENDERED AND GRANDPARENTS AND CAREGIVERS CAN SUBCONSCIOUSLY CREATE SIGNALS FOR KIDS AROUND WHAT GIRLS OR BOYS ARE SUPPOSED TO DO AND WEAR - CAN YOU TALK ABOUT YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE WITH THIS?
HOW TO CONNECT WITH BETSY